Thursday, July 30, 2009

only the mirror of my home knows me...

Din kuchh aise guzarta hai koi,
jaise ahsaan utarta hai koi,
Aaina dekh kar tasalli hui,
humko is ghar mein janata hai koi,
pak gaya hai shajar pe phal shayad
phir se patthar uchhalta hai koi
Der se gunjte hain sannate,
jaise humko pukarata hai koi

Avoid Negative Thinking - Choose to be Positive

Negative self-talk is a destructive habit and part of an essential defense mechanism that we often develop to protect ourselves. Many people end up talking themselves out of actions that may be scary or uncomfortable. "I can't do this" is really just a way of saying "I don't want to deal with the experience of doing this." We are all strongly influenced by our feelings, often determining how and what action we ultimately take. If the feeling is uncomfortable, negative self-talk results; then we often decide not to take any action at all.
Many people assume that if a past experience produced a certain result, there is nothing they can do to change that experience in order to produce a different result. "I've tried every diet there is. I know what I should do; I just can't do it."

Please understand that you can make the choice not to repeat old patterns of eating, non-exercise, and negative thinking. You have the ability to choose the emotions you have. If you don't like feeling guilty, frustrated, or doubtful, you can choose not to. You, and no one else, must decide what is comfortable for you. In order to become successful at making healthy choices, you must avoid negative self-talk and start practicing positive thinking.

Positive or negative self-talk plays a big part in your decisions. Be on the "look-out for negative self-talk and notice how it influences your choices; notice how it can negatively affect your efforts to change. For example, perhaps you've just returned from a week's vacation where you took a break from exercise and low-fat eating. You tell yourself, "I feel so fat. I'm back where I started." You feel guilty and frustrated. "I don't have enough will-power to start all over again. Maybe I'm just meant to be overweight." Feeling overwhelmed and discouraged, you give up.

First, reflect on the feelings you had before you decided to give up. You basically told yourself that the healthy habits you learned before your vacation were all for nothing and that you have to start over. Ask yourself if these feelings are reasonable. Are you really back to ground zero? Of course not. You accepted change and developed a new way of living; these skills are yours forever. The vacation might even have done you some good: everyone needs a break sometimes. Otherwise, you might have felt deprived and not really enjoyed yourself. It's time now to tell yourself: "It felt good eating whatever I wanted and taking a break from exercising; I had a great time. But now I'm going to focus back on the low-fat, active lifestyle I was enjoying before vacation. There is no reason to beat myself up; I'll just take it one day at a time." Now you can rethink your previous decision and take action that will move you forward towards more positive change.

As you begin to understand your reasons for negative self-talk, you'll find yourself recognizing it more and more quickly after it occurs. Eventually, as you practice, you'll be able to recognize and stop negative self-talk before it interferes with your decisions.

It is very important to practice positive thinking and to remind yourself that you're a worthwhile person whatever you do. Try to consistently acknowledge that you are making positive changes to improve your health. You should be proud of yourself. Visualize yourself as capable, happy, and confident. These positive feelings will help the process of change. Remember, there are bound to be times when you're feeling frustrated or depressed. Positive thinkers know that these feelings are valid, and they don't try to ignore them. Positive thinkers acknowledge and try to understand them, but they don't blame themselves for the conditions that lead to these feelings. Good luck, stay positive, and enjoy all the wonderful benefits of a healthy lifestyle! [By Chad Tackett]

re-think negative thinking

Some people have a bad experience with one person and tend to negatively stereotype a whole group of people.


People need to understand that everyone is different and may have different beliefs, but that does not make them wrong. Tolerance should be taught so people will understand their prejudices are not only ignorant, but harmful too.

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

The Heart Math Solution

By using your heart as your compass, you can see more clearly which direction to go to stop self-defeating behavior. If you take just one mental or emotional habit that really bothers or drains you and apply heart intelligence to it, you'll see a noticeable difference in your life.

Monday, July 27, 2009

Forgive and Forget [II]

Forgiving is love's toughest work, and love's biggest risk. If you twist it into something it was never meant to be, it can make you a doormat or an insufferable manipulator. Forgiving seems almost unnatural. Our sense of fairness tells us people should pay for the wrong they do. But forgiving is love's power to break nature's rule.

Sunday, July 26, 2009

mere hont aisay silay ke phir meri chup ne us ko rula diya

badi pur sakoon thi zindagi naya dard kis ne jaga diya
kisi be nayaz nigah ne meri wehshatoon ko badha diya

mere kam sukhan ka ye hukam tha ke kalam us se main kam karon
mere hont aisay silay ke phir meri chup ne us ko rula diya

usay shair sun’nay ka shauq tha mujhay arz-e-haal ka zauq tha
issi shauq-o-zauq ne aik din usay dil ka haal suna diya

kisi naam se kisi yaad se meri dil ki bazm saji rahi
kabhi ye chiragh jala diya kabhi wo chiragh jala diya

me or not me

Realize that now, in this moment of time, you are creating. You are creating your next moment. That is what's real.

What we think is less than what we know;
What we know is less than what we love;
What we love is so much less than what there is.
And to that precise extent we are so much less than what we are.

Saturday, July 25, 2009

Emotions & Intentions

With just a little education and practice on how to manage your emotions, you can move into a new experience of life so rewarding that you will be motivated to keep on managing your emotional nature in order to sustain it. The payoff is delicious in terms of improved quality of life.

My intention always has been to arrive at human contact without enforcing authority. A musician, after all, is not a military officer. What matter most is human contact. The great mystery of making music requires real friendship among those who work together. Every member of the orchestra knows I am with him and her in my heart.

Friday, July 24, 2009

tere sawaalon ke







pighle se armaan hain, do pal ke mehmaan hai
aankhon ke aalon mein, chaahat ki lo jalne do
tere sawaalon ke woh jawaab jo main de na, de na sakuun


keh rahi hai jo nazar tujhe hai khabar ke nahi,
keh rahi hai teri nazar tu bekhar toh nahi,
tere bina jindagi hai adhuri, tere bina kya hai jeena
pighle se armaan hain, do pal ke mehmaan hai
aankhon ke aalon mein, chaahat ki lo jalne do


tum kaho toh main rok luun, jo tum kaho toh nahi,
sine mein hai kaisi khalish, teri kashish toh nahi,
tere bina jindagi hai adhuri, tere bina kya hai jeena
pighle se armaan hain, do pal ke mehmaan hai
aankhon ke aalon mein, chaahat ki lo jalne do
tere sawaalon ke woh jawaab jo main de na de na sakuun

how we look.

It all depends on how we look at things, and not on how things are in themselves. The least of things with a meaning is worth more in life than the greatest of things without it.

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

When I Cry, No One Seems To Hear Me Cry,

When I Cry, No One Seems To Hear Me Cry,
Or Is It Just What I Think?
When I Cry Tears Don’t Come From My Eyes, But From My Heart.
My Tears Sting And Bring Soo Much Pain To Me,
But Bring Joy And Happiness To Others.

When I Cry, I Cry No One Comforts Me.
I’ve Been Crying Ever Since My Heart Started Beating.
Who Would Comfort A Crying Heart For That Long?
I Guess The World Is Moving Too Fast To Care For A Crying Heart.
Life Its Self Is In A Hurry To Hear Me Cry.

When I Cry, My Heart Draws The Pain And Sorrow Inside Of Me.
Some Just Take A Fresh Breath In The Wind To Feel Free And At Peace,
My Heart Cries, Who Can Do That For Me?
Crying Is All I Do, Crying Is All My Heart Does.

Sunday, July 19, 2009

kya kahooN tum se maiN key kya hai ishq

kyaa kahooN tum se maiN ke kyaa hai ishq
jaan kaa rog hai, balaa hai ishq

ishq hi ishq hai jahaaN dekho
saare aalam meiN bhar rahaa hai ishq

ishq maashuq ishq aashiq hai
yaani apnaa hi mubtalaa hai ishq

ishq hai tarz-o-taur ishq ke ta'een
kaheeN bandaa kaheeN KHudaa hai ishq

kaun maqsad ko ishq bin pohoNchaa
aarzoo ishq wa mudd'a hai ishq

koi KHwaahan naheeN mahabbat kaa
too kahe jins-e-narawaa hai ishq

"Meer" ji zarad hote jaate hain
kyaa kaheeN tum ne bhi kiyaa hai ishq

Friday, July 17, 2009

ibtidaa-e-'ishq hai rotaa hai kyaa

ibtidaa-e-'ishq hai rotaa hai kyaa
aage-aage dekhi'e hotaa hai kyaa
[ibtidaa-e-'ishq = initial stages of love]

qaafile meiN subaH ke ik shor hai
y'ani Gaafil ham chale sotaa hai kyaa
[qaafila = caravan] [Gaafil = unaware]

sabz hotee hee naheeN yeh sar-zameeN
tuKHm-e-KHvaahish dil meiN tu botaa hai kyaa
[sabz = green] [tuKHm-e-KHvaahish = desire]

yeh nishaan-e-'ishq haiN jaate naheeN
daaG chhaatee ke 'abas dhotaa hai kyaa
[abas = idly]

Gairat-e-yusuf hai yeh qissa 'azeez
"Meer" isko ra'egaaN khotaa hai kyaa
[Gairat-e-yusuf = upon Yusuf/Joseph's honor]
['azeez = dear, honorable]

Neela aasmaan so gaya

Neela aasmaan so gaya
Neela aasmaan so gaya ho
Neela aasmaan so gaya

Aansuon mein chaand dooba raat murjhaayi
Zindagi mein door tak phaili hai tanhaayi
Jo guzre ham pe woh kam hai
Tumhaare gham ka mausam hai
Neela aasmaan so gaya

yaad ki waadi mein goonje beete afsaane
Yaad ki waadi mein goonje beete afsaane
Hamsafar jo kal the ab thehre woh begaane
Mohabbat aaj pyaasi hai
Badi gehri udaasi hai
Neela aasmaan so gaya ho
Neela aasmaan so gaya

Wednesday, July 15, 2009

MERA TUJHSE KIYA RISHTA HAI

MERA TUJHSE KIYA RISHTA HAI
SAPNEY CHUNTI LARKI BOLO
BHEEGEY BHEEGEY IS ANGAN ME
ITNE LOGO K JHURMAT ME
MERA NAAM KAHAN LIKHA HAI
………….
MERA KHUDSE JO BANTA HAI
MERA TUJHSE WO RISHTA HAI
RAIT SE BHEEGEY SAHIL PAR
AKAR DEKH MITANE WALE
TERA NAAM LIKHA RAKHA HAI
…………..

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Main Diya Hoon

Main Diya Hoon Toote Mazaar Ka
Sar Shaam Kiss Ne Jala Diya
Teri Berukhi Adaoon Ne
Mujhe Zarra Zarra Bana Diya
Nai Manzalon Par Pohanch Kar Bhi
Yahi Sochti Hoon Ke kis Tarah
Kin Rastoon Pe Mile The
Kin Raston Ne Bichaar Diya
Yeh To Apna Apna Naseeb Hai
Koi Mil Sake Ya Na Mil Sake
Na Ho Gham Zada Dil Maharbaan
Phir Kya Howa Jo Bula Diya
Mere Hum Safar Zara Soch Ley
Tera Ratoon Ka Khalus Honn
Tera Samne Jo Bicha Diya
Rahey Umar Bhar Jisey Dondatey
Who Mila To Usse Ghawa Diya
Mere Hasraton Ke Mazaar Par
Tere Senkaru Se Sawaal Hai
Tujhe Rook Kar Itna Bataye Ge
Yaha Kis ne Kis Ko Bula Diya

Monday, July 13, 2009

january

Our mental and emotional diets determine our overall energy levels, health, and well-being to a far greater extent than most people realize. Every thought and feeling, no matter how big or small, impacts our inner energy reserves.

Thursday, July 9, 2009

life as a game

Imagine in which you are juggling five balls in the air. You name them - work, family, health, friends, and spirit - and you're keeping all of these in the air. You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four balls - family, health, friends, and spirit are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged, or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for balance in your life.

Brian Dyson, CEO of Coca Cola Enterprises from 1959-1994

mujhe apne zabt pe naaz tha

mujhe apne zabt pe naaz tha, sar-e bazm raat ye kiya howa
meri aankh kaise chalak gai, mujhe ranj hay ye bura howa

meri zindagi k charagh ka ye mizaaj koi naya nahi
abhi roshni abhi teergi, na jala howa na bujha howa

mujhe jo bhi dushman-e jaa.n mila, wohi pukhta kaar-e jafa mila
na kisi ki zarb ghalat pari na kisi ka teer khata howa

mujhe aap kiyu na samajh sake, kabhi apne dill sey bhi pocheye
neri dastaan-e hayaat ka tu waraq waraq hay khula howa

jo nazar bacha k guzar gay merey saamne sey abhi abhi
ye mery hi shehr k log they, merey ghar sey ghar hay milaa howa

humain is ka koi bhi huq nahi k shareek-e bazm-e kholoos hon
na humarey paas naqaab hay, na kuch aastee.n main chupa howa

merey aik gosha-e fik'r main, meri zindagi sey aziz tar
mera aik aisa bhi dost hay, jo kabhi mila na juda howa

mujhe ik gali main para howa, kisi badnaseeb ka khat mila
kahee.n khoon-e dill sey likha howa, kahee.n ansoo.n sey mita howa

mujhe hum-safar bhi mila koi tu shikasta haal meri tarha
kai manziloo.n ka thaka howa, kahee.n raaste main luta howa

humain apney ghar sey chaley howe, sar-e raah um'r guzar gaii
koi justuju ka sila mila, na safar ka huq hi ada howa
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Realize that now, in this moment of time, you are creating. You are creating your next moment. That is what's real.

Thursday, July 2, 2009

Zihale-e-Miskeen

zehal






Kafir-e-ishqam musalmani mara darkaar neest
Har rag-e mun taar gashta hajat-e zunnaar neest;.....
Az sar-e baaleen-e mun bar khez ay naadaan tabeeb
Dard mand-e ishq ra daroo bajuz deedaar neest;
Nakhuda dar kashti-e maagar nabashad go mubaash
Makhuda daareem mara nakhuda darkaar neest;
Khalq mi goyad ki Khusrau but parasti mi kunad
Aarey aarey mi kunam ba khalq mara kaar neest.


by Ameer khusro

Unhain G Se Main Kaisay Bhula'oon Sakhi...!!!











selfish people

Saying that I dont want anything return would be a lie, but a bit of understanding would be great! I have come to the realization that some person in my life are selfish which makes them sucky people. I have no expectations for these people and accept them for who they are-selfish.

One person take everything from his best friend, and then kill his best friend. just to full fill his requirements. if a person saying you his best friends, and sending you to shutter deaf. the person is lying.